in my case--i resigned back in '71...but over the next 10 years i occasionally attended because my wife nagged me into it.
no-one shunned me--and we mixed socially with lots of other jw couples. till '81......i had an affaire with a married sis--who got d'f'd for it---and it was announced that i couldnt be d/f because i wasnt a dub---but i was now an apostate and should be considered as d/f.
wife divorced me---very much NOT what i expected or wanted. but from there on i never got contacted by any elders.
from about '87 my kids decided they didnt want to see me anymore--and 2 out of 3 have shunned me since. one got d/f--and we are now family again. seeing him at christmas.
so 2 of my kids havent had contact with me now for 30 years. i have 7 grandchildren i have never met. 4 of them live a few miles away. i dont even know the names of 2 of them.
jehovah knows how to exact revenge on those who turn away from him.